How long ?

How long does it take for one to realize that someone that might be close to you is missing? 

From experience, it takes quite a while .. and not many people would actually care much. 

So, to the one that actually made an effort and cared, thanks. 

Despite having over that much number of friends .. only one realized. 

Sad but true.

January Happenings

Jaden started his first day of school in a kindergarten. 

Finally, the day that I have waited for so long for Jaden has come true.

He is attending a neurotypical children's kindergarten but when it comes to academic learning, he gets a special 1-to-1 attention with another special needs child in a separate classroom.

The time that he gets to spend with other children are during playtime, music, arts and living skills learning time.

So far, he seems ok, adapting well to the new schedule although the first day of school had been super rough and heartbreaking.

After his first day of school and the endless crying, biting the teacher and just refusing to comply, I send in one of his ABA therapist to shadow him for the next two days and also to help the teacher in understanding Jaden.

All those went really well and now, the teachers have come to a mutual understanding with Jaden, although he would still want to test them from time to time but, since they have experience dealing with children like Jaden, it was quite an easy transition.

In fact, Jaden has learned quite a bit from school. He has learned how to clean up his own mess, say thank you (but at the moment, only when you ask him to say it) and he made some beautiful art pieces (only beautiful to the parents' eyes, of course!) and baked some cookies from school.

Other than Jaden attending school, the SimonYap clan also welcome a new 'family member'. Little Monster has a new friend now, which I nicknamed 'Fatty'. 

Fatty comes in a shape of a hatchback kinda, sparkling bronze with havaina leather and everything auto. 

Yes, Fatty is our new car, supposedly a birthday present for me from Hubby but I see it as his very own birthday present, his very first car. 

Fatty is a biiiiig contrast compared to my Little Monster. Little Monster is everything manual and tiny while Fatty is the complete opposite and its took me quite a while to handle Fatty.

I am still not used to Fatty yet, especially when it comes to parking. Me and my pride in being able to park perfectly with Little Monster, now, I turned dumb when it comes to parking with Fatty. *sigh*

BUT I am sure, practice makes perfect and one day, I shall have that parking perfect pride back. :p

Good hols gone bad

I took the opportunity, before Jaden starts school in January and went back to Penang for about two weeks.

I purposely chose 20th Dec to go back to at least celebrate my birthday with my parents. 

It was a really relaxing 2 weeks holiday for me as I need not do much other than plan where to take Jaden out to walk around, what his meals are (while my mother does the cooking) and meet up with a few Inaians.

During my 2 weeks in Penang, I got to take my mother for a new hair makeover, to get her ready in time for Chinese New Year so at least a hair shape has taken place and all she has to do is to maintain that cut and need not spend exhorbitantly by her own when she does it.

I enjoyed myself tremendously back home as both Jaden and I were pampered bad by my parents. Everything was done and prepared for us. My mother was just so hands on being a grandmother, that she willingly wants to bathe Jaden, clean up after him, have fruits ready for him after each meal time, feed him and wash his laundry daily. Both Jaden and I were just chilling. :p

How I have missed home-cooked food, my mother cooking at least one of my favourite food everyday.

I even found some time out to go out and do some personal grooming (mani/pedi/hairwash and etc.)

It was indeed a holiday for both Jaden and I and would have been PERFECTLY PERFECT if not for ...

an idiot of a family had to screw it up for me in the end, that a police report was made and thankfully for Hubby, stood up for me as soon as we touchdown at the airport, giving the family member a piece of his mind. 

I bet that person was shit scared first by Hubby giving a piece of his mind, getting the police involved and everybody else at the airport was looking.

Now, that will teach you how to screw with us, you stupid maggot of a brain, for trying to threaten Jaden and I. 

So whats the story?

Well, as we all know, Air Asia does tend to be faulty with their check-in counter staff all the time,  and there I was lining up at the counter that displayed KL Check-in while that idiot of a woman was lining up at the Dao Nang check-in counter.

The line took almost forever for my turn, and just as I was just a person away, the AirAsia staff stood up and shouted KL ONLY. 

Without thinking, that idiot decided to just shove her entire trolley of luggages into my line, without considering the people in my line. 

Of course, after me, having to line up for almost 1/2 hour, I was so frustrated so I just voiced out, asking her to please queue up as there is a queue going on, and I am also heading to KL. 

In my mind, I was thinking, why would you want to line up at a vietnam checking in counter when there are several other counters that put up KL sign and now, just because of the incompetent staff, you too, have turned brainless... oh wait, you are already brainless.

That idiot then have the tendency to say, but the staff say KL here.. I KNOW YOU STUPID MAGGOT. THAT IS WHY I M ALSO LINING UP AT THE KL LINE FOR MY KL FLIGHT. MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME INSTEAD OF GOING TO A SHORTER LINE THAT STATES SOME OTHER LOCATION.

That AirAsia staff too, did not bother to ask her to go queue up or ask MY LINE of people that its for KL only, and those that wants to check into other places, to go queue up elsewhere... INCOMPETENT ASS !

So the idiot not only did not bother to apologize, which she manage to check in through the vietnam check in counter, but allowing her I M SO GANGSTER cinapek brother to come and woo, show his manly hood by cursing vulgarities at me while we were checking in, and best.. when I was about to head to the domestic departure gate, he pushed me to the side and threatened me that here is Malaysia and that he will make me miss my flight if he wants to and that he is not scared if I go and report to the police. All these happened while I was holding on to Jaden. Wrong move CinaBeng!

I walked calmly up to the domestic departure gate, let the police check my ticket and turned around at him and asked him to go ahead. Chickenshit was just giving empty threats.

Hubby was already waiting for us to arrive at the airport, and boy, by the time that idiot pushed her trolley out, he started lashing out at her, professionally of course, unlike her CinaBeng brother and oh, only then she wants to apologize but FUCK YOU, its too late. We made such a commotion that everybody was looking into our direction and I bet she was fucking embarassed. Police were then involved and that her IC was asked for, and I filed a police report against her (for being the responsible one) for her maggot of a brain brother for threatening me and Jaden. 

So yea, that was how my 2013 began.. encounter with a few idiots in a place.

Number or Bug

Hubby might have just hit it right this time, giving me a list of what he can get for me for my birthday and one of them that he mentioned was actually one of the presents I thought he would have gotten me last year.  HEH

So it all came down to 2 options at the moment. 

Either I get to choose THE NUMBER or THE BUG?

Although the idea of having a bug is cute but its not practical in my life.

I like the number and that can bring us as a family on long distance in comfort too ...

but then again, I quite like THE ALPHABET too .. but I think I will settle for the number for now. (but I shall wait for the follow-ups to the offer)

Shall see how it goes. 

*gRin*

Turning 29 could be rather fun afterall ? ... :)

Don't Ask

So, the Hubs asked me what I want for my birthday this year?

I thought hard.

There are just too many things that I want but .. I guess I know how to prioritize the thing that I want most of all for now .. for this year and to make the welcoming of 2013 a better one.

I wanted to go to Universal Studios last year to sit on the rides. In the end, I did not get to do that because my girlfriends did not think it was worth the money as it was a raining so we ended up having wine the night before, shopped at H&M.sg for the boy's clothes the next morning, had tonkatsu ramen and come back home to KL. (As you can see, my birthday wants are mostly always scrapped!)

So what is it that I want?

If one is to read the list, one would have puke blood right there and then because what I want is really really materialistic.

Hey, birthdays only come once a year and for a person like me, a birth date means a lot to me.

I don't put my birthday on facebook because I don't want just anybody to wish me Happy Birthday.

From there, I would know who actually bothers about me, care enough just to wish me those two words that will make me the happiest woman.

Of course, I would very much like the idea of how birthday surprises (friends get-together/ dinner party) could be plan for me.. but then again, its just an idea. That will never happen a lifetime for me, unless I plan one myself and that won't be a surprise no more.

No, I don't like the idea of celebrating my birthday in a club, downing drinks and getting drunk but  chilling out at a nice place with good wine and close friends would be best.

BUT then again, who is going to drive me home after that? Who is going to put the boy to bed? Who is going to wake up and prepare breakfast for the boy the day after? 

So .. IDEA is NOT IDEAL afterall.

SCRAPPED !

Then, I love a good birthday cake. No, wait, good beautiful birthday cupcakes. My favourite -the rosette looking ones with vanilla base. Not just any cupcakes, not those supersweet ones, like those found in the cupcake shops but those order from homemade ones .. I have always ordered cupcakes for others and the only cake I got ordered for me was last year, when my bestfriend presented me with a big Elmo cake. That was super sweet of her to specially ordered it for me.

I guess, I won't be having my dream cake this year too either. 

Maybe that fruit cocktail cake from Hokkaido bakery could just do the trick then. I love their fruit cocktail cake too.

A day to myself? A specially arranged spa treatment with full body massage, followed by manicure and pedicure and a good hair treatment after .. and a nice romantic dinner for two, or maybe for a glutton like me, a good buffet place where I can eat to my heart's content without having to worry about eating superfast, or what the boy can eat .. and a movie after just to end the night.

Someone that will offer to help babysit the boy, to feed him his dinner .. 

IDEA is NOT IDEAL too.. because I don't have anybody here that will be able to do that for me. Nobody can really handle the boy.

Selfish thought eh, me being the mother yet I want the day to be spent not with the boy? and that makes me feel so GUILTY so yea, SCRAP THAT !

I would love him to blow the candles out together with me though, and sit with me when I make my birthday wish.

Then.. after how I want to celebrate my birthday, what present do I really want? Those tangible ones, those that I can actually touch and feel and say, hey, its a birthday present for me. :)

Well, FIRST, I wanted half a house. ( Not in my lifetime that would come true unless I work my ass and use my own money OR get lucky and join competitions that offers houses as grand prizes.) -SCRAPPED-

SECOND, I was eyeing a bag and asked a friend who was travelling to Italy then to help me get it. Alas, he was too tied up with work and could not find time to head out to shop for me. (don't ask bout the pricing :p)
 -SCRAPPED-

THIRD, I wanted this one watch since I started working and was introduced to that particular brand. They no longer make it in the collection I wanted but then again, there is the Linea or Hampton that looks equally as pretty but pricey but do I really really really want it right now? I can do with it later but is it something that I want NOW? so -SCRAPPED-

I chanced upon this FOURTH item while I was browsing a blog. It hit me that I was in a similar condition as that blogger and I may even need it much more badly than that blogger and we are the same age. I really thinks the blogger looks good with this FOURTH item I think I need badly .. but Hubs might have a different take on this .. 

SO ...

lets just go with maybe I will just skip by my last birthday in my 20's as quietly as can be .. and pray that I can usher in the BIG THREE with a party but then again, there will never be such a thing. 

I will just go to bed every night now, counting the days to my birthday and then just be grateful to be alive this 29 years of my life, getting to see my son grow and improving in all sort of ways..

Beauty of Marriage

Attended a much needed wedding.

To remind me the beauty of marriage after having going through a few shared experiences from friends and family of where the union went spiralling down after a few years ...

In fact, I nearly became a skeptic towards that very word "M" and having to sit through what I thought was one of the most beautiful, intimate wedding of year 2012 made me realize that it is a wonderful thing afterall.

For the first time, I opened up and listened.

Listened to what Jo An's pastor had to preach about marriage. 

Marriage being an institution where one will never stop learning from each other.

Every day there will be something new to learn and discover about one another and that a marriage is no longer just emotions and feelings because these things do die off after a while.

What makes a strong marriage would be the 7 Cs in life and no, I am not talking about our usual Cash, Credit Card, Cars, Condominium etc ...

I am talking about:-

• Commitment 
• Communication
• Consideration 
• Caring 
• Cooperation 
• Compromising
• Confidentiality

I wished I had someone to guide and counsel me before we plunged into our marriage. I really find it useful, inspiring and with those very words, makes me believe in the beautiful union of two people becoming one once again.

Inspired me to come home to my husband and tell him that I love him and I thank him for everything, best of all, giving me a beautiful boy whom I call my son.

Cutting the story short from last night, I attended my college friend's wedding. Jo An's wedding.

She has been going out with her beau for 14 years and their love for each other is beyond commendable. 

They make every young couple in the room jealous with their marriage vows and their pledged love for each other since the day they began this thing call LOVE.

Every inch and part of their wedding was well-planned, simple and intimate. Very intimate. 

Very beautiful.

Every moment of their wedding blessing ceremony brought tears to my eyes. Really, I almost forgotten the day I said those very same vows, till death do us part ... 

Feeling refreshed and inspired, I vow never to ever forget the reason why I joined hands with him, and walked down this path together and will try my very best to make this marriage work till the end by applying the 7Cs into it too ..

Thank you Jo An & William for inviting me to your wedding and allowing me to be humbled and inspired by your love for one another. 

On a Hiatus

something happened, when it should not have in the first place.

consequences have got to be paid.

would be back soon.

thanks.