Beauty of Marriage

Attended a much needed wedding.

To remind me the beauty of marriage after having going through a few shared experiences from friends and family of where the union went spiralling down after a few years ...

In fact, I nearly became a skeptic towards that very word "M" and having to sit through what I thought was one of the most beautiful, intimate wedding of year 2012 made me realize that it is a wonderful thing afterall.

For the first time, I opened up and listened.

Listened to what Jo An's pastor had to preach about marriage. 

Marriage being an institution where one will never stop learning from each other.

Every day there will be something new to learn and discover about one another and that a marriage is no longer just emotions and feelings because these things do die off after a while.

What makes a strong marriage would be the 7 Cs in life and no, I am not talking about our usual Cash, Credit Card, Cars, Condominium etc ...

I am talking about:-

• Commitment 
• Communication
• Consideration 
• Caring 
• Cooperation 
• Compromising
• Confidentiality

I wished I had someone to guide and counsel me before we plunged into our marriage. I really find it useful, inspiring and with those very words, makes me believe in the beautiful union of two people becoming one once again.

Inspired me to come home to my husband and tell him that I love him and I thank him for everything, best of all, giving me a beautiful boy whom I call my son.

Cutting the story short from last night, I attended my college friend's wedding. Jo An's wedding.

She has been going out with her beau for 14 years and their love for each other is beyond commendable. 

They make every young couple in the room jealous with their marriage vows and their pledged love for each other since the day they began this thing call LOVE.

Every inch and part of their wedding was well-planned, simple and intimate. Very intimate. 

Very beautiful.

Every moment of their wedding blessing ceremony brought tears to my eyes. Really, I almost forgotten the day I said those very same vows, till death do us part ... 

Feeling refreshed and inspired, I vow never to ever forget the reason why I joined hands with him, and walked down this path together and will try my very best to make this marriage work till the end by applying the 7Cs into it too ..

Thank you Jo An & William for inviting me to your wedding and allowing me to be humbled and inspired by your love for one another. 

My Bestfriend's Wedding

this is a very much belated post since her wedding took place in January.

Nevertheless, I only got to get some pictures and I shall start with these few first.. waiting for more to come in from the Sg side.. =)

KL Dinner 31st Jan 2011

Bestie SChee, YC, Bestie Gwen & I






clockwise from standing (L) to (R) :: Eelin, Davie, YuMay, Gwen, YC, eMs, Dennis, YikHuei, SChee and Eric



Just us the Inaians :: YuMay, both my besties and I

CONGRATULATIONS

to both group of my friends on both different joyous occasion!

ONE:

IzGrace

on their marriage -oh how Simon and I have waited for this very day for both of you!









TWO:

SharonSer and Cheah

on the arrival of their little bouncy 3.5kg baby girl!!

Becoming Mrs Cheah 260910

Joy and I took another trip together. This time, down south to Kluang, Johor. We left KL at about 10pm and made our way there at about 1230am, but the drive in from the toll till the Kluang town took another 1/2 hr. So 3 hours drive in total.

Sharon and Cheah drove out to guide us to her lounge where a birthday party and their bachelor parties were taking place. Alas, both Joy and I were so tired, we decided its best to go have a small meal and konk out after that.

Sharon's father was kind enough to house us in his friend's apartment for free lodging and accompanied us girls, Joy, Sharon and I for a quick bite. Sharon is so lucky to have one cool dad! I sure hope one day Jaden's friends are going to say the same thing about his father. *gRin*












Early next morning, Sharon took us and her in-laws to the infamous ORIGINAL Kluang railway station kopitiam. The ambience inside the kopitiam sure gives out a nolstagic feeling but too bad for us, it was fully seated so we settled for outside. I love the two versions of their roti bakar and was just downing coffee ice to keep myself fueled for the day's event.











Of course, we camwhored too at the place, making full use of our tourist status. It was sure fun to be able to take pictures with these girlfriends of mine, although it would have been more complete if SueKingKong was there. Then the B.O.B production team would have been complete. (Bag-of-Bones)




We followed Sharon back to her house for her tea sessions. (her side of the family) and Joy, who only had a 2-3 hours sleep last night konked out again in Sharon's bedroom. A very good move because we will be heading back to KL after dinner and we don't want a tired driver behind the wheels, do we?




By the time Joy woke up, it was time to go have our hair and makeup done. Hair, we love but we can't say the same thing about the make up. I think it is the worst I'd ever gotten and I absolutely hate it. I am sorry, SharonSer but the makeup is really that bad. If I knew it would turn out like this, I would not have even wanted it for free. Next time, when an 'aunty' is the makeup artist, please do not do it! Regret kao kao! I would have look better off making myself up!

Well, but then this night is all about Sharon and Cheah and they both look absolutely great together. Both Sherene (SharonSer's younger sister) and I were shedding tears when both father and daughter were walking down the aisle.. *sigh* Its quite a beautiful wedding.. but aren't all weddings are supposed to be like that?



I enjoyed myself tremendously that night. The dinner wrapped up at about 10pm and we were on our way back at about 11pm after we got back to the apartment to change and wash off the ugly 'mask' we got on...

:: pic credit goes to J Ya Loh ::

Congratulations Sharon and Cheah! Hope to see mini you soon! =)

Bringing the bride home

Date :: 18 September 2010
Day :: Saturday ::
Time :: 6am - 6pm ::
Destination :: Ipoh ::
Reason :: Bride hand-over

Joy reached my house sharp at 6am and before our journey began, we stopped over at the Restoran Jejantas to buy her breakfast. She needs food to fuel her mind and body except that the breakfast was damn sucky, according to her!

Jaden only decided he wanted to sleep half hour before we reached Ipoh and he slept straight off for 3 whole hours. By the time he woke up, Joy and I were already in the bride's room teasing the bride about her skinny frame.

We reached Ipoh at about 815am and Cheah lead the way to SharonSer's place. It was still quite early and when the bride appeared out to reverse her car out for us so we could park in the porch and let Jaden sleep while we stretch our backs and take in the fresh cool air. Behind the house was the oil palm plantation and the pleasant morning breeze were rather welcoming.

Sharon's mother prepared the bottom room for me while I moved Jaden from the car into the room to let him continue his beauty sleep. Joy and I then proceeded to help with the ingredients that will be use for the games later on. Oh boy! I feel the 'heat' for them boys!!!

Since I was the only one married in the house, other than Sharon's mother, I was told to say some good things as they veil her. Not a very smart idea when it comes to saying good things in Cantonese from me.. even the good may sound obscene. But saying these good things can be really rewarding -YAY! Angpow!

We, the bridesmaids, took a few photos with the bride before the troop of 'brothers' arrive and then, that was when things really got 'hot' and funny!





Every single thing we do, we ask for angpow! Blood-suckers I tell you.. We played the doughnut and banana game where the brothers have to lick and eat from the groom's private areas. *eew* and then the chilli padi-fied orange chiffon cake, wasabi orange chiffon cake and salted orange chiffon cake. Then we have the boys eat from the diaper a very disgusting looking diarrhea look-a-like dalcha tomato and onions. Last thing to eat was the ultimate and that was the BOMB I tell you, fully chilli-powdered, wasabi-ed and chilli tuna to mask the evil beneath.


Before we let the groom in to claim his bride, whom he had suffered so much for, he had to write a contract promising SharonSer a number of stuff and to read it aloud for the bride to hear and approve. It was really sweet when he finally unveil the bride and give her a kiss.






Sharon's mother burst into tears when her daughter poured her tea. I can understand now why she cried. I would too if it was my daughter who is marrying. They grow up so fast.. if only they could remain a baby forever where we could pamper and coo at them. *sigh*

Quinn, Sharon's another friend joined us on our trip back to KL. Next week's destination, KLUANG.



all pic credits go to J.Ya Loh

28th August

... marks my 3 years of being officially Mrs Yap.

... and it also means that Jaden has one more month to turning 3 years old.

28 has always been 'the' number in the SimonYap clan. Almost everything happens on the 28th, or maybe that is what I like to think but all happy memorable moments do fall on that number for us.

This year, today, Hubby had work to do so he was out of the house till like just an hour ago -2am. Hubby turned 'whore' for a day. *sigh* but he took Jaden and I out for dinner last night though to make up for it.

I didn't really mind that we did not go out for a dinner celebration because we can have dinners at nice restaurants whenever wherever so being able not to do so today didn't really matter afterall but the Hubby did try to make up for it last night.

He took me out for dinner last night at FullHouse (can you believe it? its actually my first time there but nothing to shout about =( ) and of course my favourite A&W waffle with double scoop ice-cream. Double Yay!

Although he could not spend THE day with me, it was alright because I got to download two episodes of the Korean drama and watched it in peace without having to be chased off the computer and do housework at my own pace.

After putting Jaden down for nap, I quickly whipped up dinner for the boy. I bought a slice of dory fish fillet for only RM4 something and cooked it ala Oriental Buttered fish style for him. The boy finished every single bite of his rice and fish. Must be either really hungry or really good. I like to think its the latter. *so not shy* LOL

I didn't have much appetite today and wasn't feeling hungry so I only cooked myself a bowl of instant noodle to eat near midnight. I can't believe it myself that I was full from the scrambled eggs and half a sausage Hubby cooked for brunch. Maybe that is how I lose my weight without even realizing. Damaging to my health I know, but sometimes when the appetite is not there, nothing taste good in the mouth.

I packed the remaining blueberry muffins I made last night, after Hubby had an additional 7 pieces, all for EddyHan. There will be more in the future. I should stock up on more pre-mixes or flours and what that is needed to make muffins from scratch.

Thankfully this weekend, Jaden need not go to school because its a term break. As if-lah his classes are like 5 days a week / busy konon but its only one hour once a week and well, he has a one week break. Woo Hoo for the mommy. Need not wake up that early. =) Next week he will be upgraded to another class fit for 3 year olds. No more mixing with the 2 year olds. I hope his classmate Isabelle will join the class back. Isabelle and her family are quite a delight to have in class.

Birthday present came early this year for me. In fact, it was like bought in a 5 second decision. An immediate must buy invitation so why not right? As for this anniversary, Hubby already bought me a dress like a month ago so what more can I say? I am lovin' it!!!

So well, let me take this opportunity to wish my Hubby a very 'Happy Anniversary'.

Love love.

My lawyer friend sent me a saman =)

I have two bestfriends. The bestest ever one could have and now, one is finally getting married. Its for real! I remember just asking her, if I am not mistaken, early this year or was it late last year when she was down here with me in KL. I asked her when does she think her boyfriend is going to propose to her and she said, probably this year -2010 and yes, he did! With a pink diamond encrusted on her tiny fingers, she is finally going to be someone’s wife!

I am feeling so ecstatic for her. Looking back at how we practically grew up together, laughing and crying together, the tragic relationships we had with the opposite sex.. finally its now time to swap stories about being married and all. If only the other bestfriend could find her soul mate and get hitched too but I wouldn’t want to hurry that. I believe marriage should only happen when both are comfortable with each other, trusting and shares a loving relationship with one another. Loving is the one main word that both should have for each other in order to make a marriage work. Sometimes rushing into a marriage just won’t work. I am quite worried for another girlfriend of mine, who has just announced to me that she is engaged and she just met the guy like two three months ago..

Marriage is all about commitments and not saying ‘break up’ easily like when you are only in the girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. Marriage is somehow long term and when you decide to say ‘I do’ to that person, you just don’t back out from it because things don’t work. Unless you are in some violent, unchangeable gambling habit relationship, then maybe out is the answer to save both yourselves from more damage.

Wait! This is supposed to be some happy post about my best girl getting married, not some sob story about how marriage can be bad.. =) I am only an amateur in this line.. I should leave it to experienced married couples for these kinda talks.

This year itself, I have already got two samans. One from Jackson, my god-bro and well, Gwen. I am just waiting to hear from the other girlfriend of mine, and that would mean three... although there is Sam, whom I heard got engaged a few days before Gwen too.. =) =) double joy! So with wedding dinners as a reason, Jaden and I will be hitting back Penang end of June for about two weeks. Yay! Another one end of this year or next! YAY YAY YAY!!!!!!!!

Marrying young

Most people tend to ask me this one question. Do you regret marrying young?

Well, what would you answer to that? I know some people ask me that when I tell them never to rush into marriage. Well, it is true. Why rush into one when you are not going to keep it going on later? I have seen many cases of friends and family ending up that lonely road once again.. so when it comes to marriage, it needs both to make it work... patience pays...

I don't regret marrying young because I married a man who is very responsible, hardworking and is a very loving father to his son.

Its like a confirm catch that when you get on with a person, and you trust that person completely, regardless of which company he hangs out with.

I have some experiences when it comes to finding Mr Right and with my hubby, you just know that he is the right one for you feel secure and the most important of all -trust. It is there... well, I am not sure when it comes to him and the ciggies but yea, other than that, I trust that he is doing nothing that will break my heart behind my back.


Marrying young is one thing. Being a young mother is another thing. I think its the being a young mother that sometimes made me envy my single friends out there who is having a ball out there but well, I, too is having a ball of a lifetime.

Having Jaden is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I say it with all my sincerity. It is even better than being married. Watching him grew from inside my belly, and then out into this world and now, a 2 year old who smiles back at me whenever he sees me. Kisses me, loving me unconditionally.. I am glad Hubby and I made the decision to have this child, not to say we had other ideas.. Jaden was meant for keeps.

My angel

It may seem I am losing out on what my friends in their 20s are having, but I am very happy just to be home with Jaden. Although once a blue moon, maybe twice or three times in a year, I would very much like some timeout with just my friends and I. A few hours is all I asked for and I can tell you the beauty of having a child in your life.

One cousin of mine, once told me when she was hugging me at my wedding, told me that I must be 幸福 in this marriage... and I totally agree with her. That is the only way a marriage can last and well, with Jaden as family, I feel that I am the most 幸福 girl on earth.

So my answer will be, I do not regret marrying young and I do not regret being a young mother. Especially the part of being a young mother. Jaden is the best gift ever from above and I treasure each day I spend with him... and as for Hubby, I thank him for giving me this beautiful child. =)



p/s: you know when I was just a little girl, the ideal age of picturing myself getting married was at the age of 23.. guess what? it came true. =)